If you’re trying to become more confident, you may be doing it the wrong way.
Confidence is just an outcome. When you have trust in yourself, your abilities, what you do… that’s when you become confident effortlessly.
So stop focusing on the outcome because it’s so hard to change it without addressing the underlying reasons as you’ll keep getting disappointed.
Focus on building the TRUST and eliminating what’s causing that lack of trust.
That’s exactly what I work with my clients on.
You can keep repeating affirmations, mantras, doing “fake till you make it” thing and keep pretending to be confident (while instead you’re shaking!).
Even if you get some temporary results, eventually you’ll end up where you started because your internal system will automatically guide you to what is safe for you.
𝐈𝐟 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞’𝐬 𝐧𝐨 𝐭𝐫𝐮𝐬𝐭, 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐥𝐥 𝐤𝐞𝐞𝐩 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐬𝐞 𝐜𝐫𝐚𝐩𝐩𝐲 𝐬𝐭𝐨𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐢𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐝𝐨 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡, 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐞𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡, 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐥𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐧 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞, 𝐝𝐨 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞, 𝐛𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞, 𝐞𝐭𝐜.
If what you do isn’t enough, instead of launching that product, course or a program, you’ll find yet another thing that needs to be polished, add a new feature, rerecord a video, etc. and you may keep finding all those reasons why now isn’t a good time.
Usually all this happens NOT because what you create isn’t good enough or that you’re not capable, but because deep down you do not TRUST yourself and that you can succeed. Therefore, in your mind, what you create is not valuable or transformative and cannot bring you great results.
Surprise… surprise…
It all goes back to you.